TGIF: Home Sweet Home

It’s been a long tough quarter and I am needing to recoup some energy and enthusiasm.  So, in true introvert form, today I hibernated.  Yes, I know spring is finally here but spring has found me before I found it.  I really need days like this one to stay sane.  Therefore today my gratitude overflows for my home.  My place of relative safety, acceptance, quiet, and love.  What more can I say?  Home is home and I am grateful.

TGIF: Technology Can Be Bliss

Today as I checked my registration for spring quarter and paid my tuition, I was suddenly reminded of what that processed looked like for me the first time around at this higher education thing.  It’s so easy that I had completely forgotten the “old” way.  I am grateful to have a “new” way now.   Read more at Begin Again.

“The best thing college ever did for me was to teach me how to think!” -Anonymous

What About Self Denial? (More on Lent)

So yesterday I began to work through some ideas on sacrifice which started with a few comments from around the web.  Br. Jesse Alexander says, “Fasting is meant to teach us to say no to good things, so that when we do come up against bad things and sins we are practiced at saying no.”  At first glance, I’m not sure this is really true for me.  Honestly, there are enough bad things in my life, in my history, and affecting those I love that I don’t feel the need to “practice” dealing with bad things.  

And anyway, I don’t think of fasting this way.  To me fasting produces true empathy for those without enough to eat.  It is even heightened by giving the food I would have eaten to those who are hungry.  Br. Jesse’s definition sounds less like my view of fasting and more like self denial to me.  And self denial is something I certainly need to practice as I am a middle class American white woman who has many things just handed to me without any effort on my part.

Exercising self denial during Lent could definitely change the way I love God and my neighbors.  Saying no to bad habits is hard.  So practicing self denial could help to ground me in my relationships with those who are different from me.  It would also help me get better at saying no to things that are bad for me, for others, and for the environment.

What would self denial look like for you?

Sin or Sacrifice?

A friend of mine posted this article on Facebook a few days ago.  It talks about the practice of giving something up for Lent.  Some call this fasting, some call it abstaining, some call it sacrifice, and some use those words to mean very specific things within their tradition.  In the article, Phil suggests giving up some bad habits that prevent us from fully loving each other.  Things like gossip, bitterness, and self pity.

One of the comments on this article comes from Br. Jesse Alexander and says, “Some of the things on the list are sins (gossip and pride, for example) Christians do NOT fast from sins. We are called to just stop sinning. You can’t or shouldn’t fast from sin. Fasting is meant to teach us to say no to good things, so that when we do come up against bad things and sins we are practiced at saying no.”

This got me thinking about sin, fasting, and sacrifice.  I’m not Roman Catholic so I don’t feel particularly bound to define these terms the way that tradition does.  The way I understand sin best is that sin is something that gets in the way of the fullest expression of God’s good creation whether or not that is within me, or something I do to others, or something done on my behalf.   Sacrifice is about giving up something or taking on something that I would rather not but feel called to do for God and God’s people.  Giving up something for Lent falls in this category.  (Fasting is about food and I have enough issues with food so I don’t even go there.)


So if I have a bad habit I struggle with that prevents the fullest expression of God’s good creation and I want to sacrifice an extra amount of time and brainspace to change that habit during Lent, all the better.  Yes, it’s sin and, yes, it’s sacrifice.  I don’t know about you but I’m not capable of “just stop sinning.”  I believe deciding to spend my time during Lent focusing on one specific bad habit is, not only a valid sacrifice, but a devotional one God desires.

Have you thought about what giving up something for God means to you?

Reconciliation and Right Relationship

Have you ever had a friendship end in a way that leaves you wondering what happened?  I have.  I know that people come and go in my life as the seasons of it change.  However, this one friend’s disappearance seems to haunt me as the feelings of disappointment and sadness surface at random moments in my life.  Like yesterday while listening to a sermon about reconciliation.  So my question is: How do I reconcile with someone who doesn’t want to talk to me and is no longer a part of my life?

The priest said that we must be in right relationship with our fellow human beings in order to be in right relationship with God.  Yet, relationship is just that, a relation between two people.  So if we must be in right relationship then both people must be a part of that process.  In my case, one of us won’t be a part of that process.

I found this piece of advice from Marc and Angel helpful: “Focus only on what can be changed;– Realize that not everything in life is meant to be modified or perfectly understood.” (For more of their insights visit them here.)  I can only change myself.  I cannot change my friend.  So if I am to be in right relationship with him then God must provide the opportunity for that to happen.  I have prepared my heart.  I have done what I can alone.  The next step lies outside my control.  Sometimes the hardest thing for me to do is nothing.  

The answer I come to today is: Be me and trust God for all the rest.  What do you find helpful when reconciliation is beyond your control?

The Potter and The Clay

What do you experience as you watch this mediation?

My experience last week at the Grünewald Guild inspired me to create this video as my final project for my Gospel and Global Media Cultures course.  I was invited to participate in the annual raku pottery firing.  I love the look of raku pottery.  It is astonishingly beautiful.  Now though!  I have a deep respect and amazement for the process that creates that beauty.

This raku was fired in an outdoor kiln which seemed incredibly hot to me.  Then taken with tongs and placed or dropped or tossed into a garbage can filled with local pine needles.  The lid is securely fixed to the top of the can to limit the oxygen for the fire to what is within the can.  The fire sucks the oxygen out of the glaze on the pots and the remaining metals react with elements in the pine needles to create the fabulous colors that make raku famous.

Watching this process, even participating in it, created an experience of immersion in theological metaphors in me.  I am still mining the depths of these revelations.  What is resounding for me now is the relational implications of “the potter” in this process.  So many people working together to make this beautiful pottery, I believe, can represent something of an idea of the trinitarian nature of God.  Like all metaphors it has it’s limits too.  It doesn’t represent everything of Trinity.  For example, there is definitely a “lead” potter in this film.  Still the process was so different from what I have imagined my entire life  the metaphor of God as potter would look like.  I am deeply struck with the change.

I was so touched I wanted to share something of the experience with you.  So I really do want to know… what is your experience?

 

I can’t learn what I want to know on the web. No, really I can’t.

Let me be clear up front.  I love surfing the web.  I love new things.  I love learning. If curiosity truly kills the cat then I am in deep trouble.  I can’t get enough of these things.  But to be quite honest with you.  I love other things more.  My husband, my God, my dog, my family,  my friends, and my well being.  All of these things are relationships and they need personal, intentional tending.  (There are other things in my life that need tending too but here is where my heart is this morning.)

These relationships and my time spent in social media and online in general on not entirely separate things.  My connection through Facebook keeps me in daily contact with friends and family across the globe.  That connection is priceless to me but I do need to engage it with caution.  So many of my friends and family post fascinating articles and opinions that I am so tempted to just keep clicking my way through my entire day.  I just want to know it all.   

Perhaps you can understand then that I felt like this concept from Net Smart was aimed directly at me.  “Making informed decisions about where to deploy your attention begins with realizing that nobody can ever take advantage of all the interesting opportunities the Web presents us.”  As much as I want to read and learn everything I am curious about, I can’t.  I just do not have that much time in my lifespan and my relationships are more important to me.

When it comes to online knowledge seeking, I need to follow Stephen Covey‘s advice and “begin with the end in mind.”   I use social media to connect and tend my relationships.  If my time online is not serving the love I wish to show and experience in these relationships, then I need to focus my attention on what is really important to me and say no to curiosity in favor of love.

Do you struggle with the YouTube Time Suck of Death or the Facebook Click Through Time Destroyer?  How do you choose what is important to you?